Friday, August 12, 2011

The Glamorous World Of SugarBabies



I first heard of the SB/SD lifestyle a few years back. I was at home watching Dr. Phil and a special came on advertising the site "sugardaddie.com". Audience members gasped, cringed, shook their heads in disgust. Dr. Phil himself lectured and made the men look like desperate fools, made the women look like users, whores. The show, I felt, seemed to denounce the life. 
However, I was intrigued. Fascinated even. 
Back in 2007, still in undergrad, I created a profile on "sugardaddie.com". I met Mr. Ducks who was a huge fan of the Anaheim Ducks and would text me constantly. He would always tell me, "I'm going to be a good daddy to you." 
Once we planned to meet in person, I damn near passed out from nerves. I had no idea what I was doing and I had no one I could talk to for advice. I went right after classes, dressed like a TYPICAL YUPPIE UNDERGRAD, wearing my collegiate sweatshirt, jeans and pumas (OMG!!!). 
He was nice though, not too hard on the eyes and we went back to his hotel room. He ordered room service for us, we chatted and he smoked a joint while I cracked jokes to him, to ease my nervousness. He REALLY was a nice guy. 
Well, he sensed my apprehension and must have felt bad for me because he softened his voice and said, "It's okay. You don't have to have sex with me." He then handed me a bundle of money, gave me a kiss on my cheek and sent me on my way. 
I later counted the money and was shocked to see that he'd given me $1500, just for TALKING to him. 
I never heard from Mr. Ducks again and it's sad because sometimes in this world, you only get a few chances to meet a genuinely nice, generous man. 
After that, I deleted my profile and felt maybe I wasn't cut out to be a SB. 
Fast forward a few years and once again I became intrigued. To be honest, I got tired of seeing other young women who didn't work while they maintained a fabulous lifestyle of designer clothing, luxury apartments, vacations, and brand new 7 Series...all at the expensive of their older "friend".
Don't get me wrong, I'm never the type to hate on another chick. But I realized that my life of going to school full-time, maintaining full-time employment, while only earning peanuts, just isn't going to cut it.
And hey, how else am I going to pay off my student loans in a timely matter, rather than let them sit around incurring interest?
The one thing that prevented me from taking advantage of this life previously is because I was afraid of what others would think. 
But I could really give a damn now. 
No one's opinion of me will stop my paper chase. It's not like they're paying my bills!
And this lifestyle will be temporary. 
Every SB has a bigger goal in life.
Mine is to pay off my student loans, tuition, start a business , have some fun shopping and living grand along the way. :) 
What's yours? 

2 comments:

  1. Oh wow that is amazing that he gave you 1500 for just a date. Girl that's all it would've did to convince me that I was sugar material! If I could get a man to give me that much money while wearing a college sweatshirt…um yea he'd give me all of his retirement once I threw on a sexy dress and heels hahaha! But yea I'm with you - don't care about what other's think, they're not paying your bills. Let's get real about life, you can declare bankruptcy and your student loans will NEVER go away.

    Boyfriends have always treated me well and helped me pay my bills…when I found out there was an official way to do that type of dating where it was already understood…I was all for it. I have $25k in student loans, $15k+ in medical debt, $7k owed on my car…yea I plan on having all of that paid off in 2 yrs or less. Then I can focus on getting a dream job and buying a house with a debt free slate.

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  2. @Dream: Hey Girl! *waves* Yes, it was Amazing! I was sooo dumb! I was a fool to let him get away! I wasn't thinking at all! And your right; I mean in no way did I look straight BUSTED but if he liked that, he would've LOVED to see me all dressed up! But that was my problem, I was too worried what other's would think. I've matured since then, but I've never forgotten about the SD I let get away! Smart plan too! So many waste it on clothes and toys that depreciate. I'm glad to see you have bigger goals than that! You're on the right track to get it done too!

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