So I decided to take a break for a bit. Not too long, just enough to relax and rejuvenate. In life, with everything I aspire to do, I give it 110%. Maybe not so good in this world? Finding sugar or the arrangement I want isn't as guaranteed as completing my Master's or getting paid from my regular employer. So when things don't progress as quickly as I want them to or when I don't get what I've worked hard for, I tend to stress out. No bueno.
I've been taking the time to give myself facials, give myself pedicures and I spent a few hours yesterday lounging poolside, listening to my ipod. I know it seems like no big deal, but it is, because the past two weeks have been spent checking my messages on various sites multiple times a day and talking to various POTs via email and text all day long.
I feel refreshed and laid back now ever since I stopped emailing and checking messages. Come Monday, I will jump back in and get back into my routine, but I'm still going to take it easy. From reading other SB's blogs, sometimes it can take awhile to find sugar, so I'm not going to drive myself crazy.
Tip of the day: Take time out for yourself everyday and try not to get so caught up.
I first heard of the SB/SD lifestyle a few years back. I was at home watching Dr. Phil and a special came on advertising the site "sugardaddie.com". Audience members gasped, cringed, shook their heads in disgust. Dr. Phil himself lectured and made the men look like desperate fools, made the women look like users, whores. The show, I felt, seemed to denounce the life.
However, I was intrigued. Fascinated even.
Back in 2007, still in undergrad, I created a profile on "sugardaddie.com". I met Mr. Ducks who was a huge fan of the Anaheim Ducks and would text me constantly. He would always tell me, "I'm going to be a good daddy to you."
Once we planned to meet in person, I damn near passed out from nerves. I had no idea what I was doing and I had no one I could talk to for advice. I went right after classes, dressed like a TYPICAL YUPPIE UNDERGRAD, wearing my collegiate sweatshirt, jeans and pumas (OMG!!!).
He was nice though, not too hard on the eyes and we went back to his hotel room. He ordered room service for us, we chatted and he smoked a joint while I cracked jokes to him, to ease my nervousness. He REALLY was a nice guy.
Well, he sensed my apprehension and must have felt bad for me because he softened his voice and said, "It's okay. You don't have to have sex with me." He then handed me a bundle of money, gave me a kiss on my cheek and sent me on my way.
I later counted the money and was shocked to see that he'd given me $1500, just for TALKING to him.
I never heard from Mr. Ducks again and it's sad because sometimes in this world, you only get a few chances to meet a genuinely nice, generous man.
After that, I deleted my profile and felt maybe I wasn't cut out to be a SB.
Fast forward a few years and once again I became intrigued. To be honest, I got tired of seeing other young women who didn't work while they maintained a fabulous lifestyle of designer clothing, luxury apartments, vacations, and brand new 7 Series...all at the expensive of their older "friend".
Don't get me wrong, I'm never the type to hate on another chick. But I realized that my life of going to school full-time, maintaining full-time employment, while only earning peanuts, just isn't going to cut it.
And hey, how else am I going to pay off my student loans in a timely matter, rather than let them sit around incurring interest?
The one thing that prevented me from taking advantage of this life previously is because I was afraid of what others would think.
But I could really give a damn now.
No one's opinion of me will stop my paper chase. It's not like they're paying my bills!
And this lifestyle will be temporary.
Every SB has a bigger goal in life.
Mine is to pay off my student loans, tuition, start a business , have some fun shopping and living grand along the way. :)
What's yours?
